life hacks

I’m a believer that you should have at least 10 core principles in life so that there’s some foundation and guidance to your thoughts and actions. Here are the 10 that I am letting pivot my life:

1. Everything given in this life is rented from God so egotism is pointless.

It’s humbling to realize how quickly the world moves on after you die. The things we spend so much time worrying about - our image, status, and achievements - are ultimately temporary. Yet the depth of emotions and connections we have with other people feels too meaningful to be truly meaningless. To me, it has always pointed to God existing and having something beyond this short life for us.

If you’re blessed with certain gifts and opportunities, the purpose isn’t only to elevate yourself, but to understand what God wants you to do with them. It’s also acceptable to feel fulfillment and the “good pride” when you’re able to do these things.

2. Don’t take your situation for granted.

Ever since experiencing a severe car accident, I’ve realized how quickly life can change. There are so many people who would do anything to have the things we often take for granted - the ability to walk, run, see, move freely, or simply feel like themselves again.

I was fortunate to heal from two hip dislocations, but I know that second chances aren’t always guaranteed. It’s a reminder to be grateful for my body and to use it with purpose. I’m often reminded that the things we’re given are not meant to be wasted and are gifts to take care of and use well.

3. Comparison is the thief of joy.

There is at least one person willing to kill for your situation in life - especially for a first world life. With the intention of self improvement, comparing yourself to others better than you is beneficial so you can set bigger goals for yourself.

In the case of envy, you need to lock in and stop being fragile. If possible, go travel to countries where the standard of living is lower or look up a documentary so you can become more grateful for what you have. If it’s really clouding you, look into self-improvement to have an outlet make it worth it.

4. Play your deck well and see cup half full.

I am a firm believer in fully leveraging every advantage you’re given in life. If you’re good-looking, go make the most of it and get the best hair cut, clothes, accessories, etc.. to further get you incredible opportunities. You’re not morally harming anyone by using your advantages given that it’s for good intentions.

At the same time, the things we lack can shape us in meaningful ways. Being chopped at something can often lead to deeper self-awareness, resilience, empathy, and a stronger work ethic. Every circumstance has the potential to develop something valuable.

5. Use common sense for relationships.

This one sounds ridiculous but it’s true. If you want to date for marriage, get real with your non-negotiables and be more picky. If you want to date for fun, don’t set your expectations too high and enjoy the time lightly. If you hold strong religious values, don’t burden someone non-religious into a relationship. If your girl is too expensive, get your money up or find someone more financially compatible. If you’re double-stunting as a wife while being a girlfriend, don’t get upset when a guy doesn’t have to work as hard for you. If you want the color purple, mix blue and red.