6. Have low expectations for everyone and have high expectations for yourself.

Life is a million times nicer when you have zero expectations for anybody. Of course with higher friendship levels you should see more commitment, but when you don’t have to depend on other people for your emotional state, you’re taking good care of yourself.

On the other hand - if your mental state allows, be hard on yourself. Cut the BS and find every changeable flaw to fix so that you can become the best version of yourself and further be that version for the people around you.

7. Hang out with your parents as much as you can.

Outside of controversial circumstances, it is so underrated to hang out with your parents. Not everyone gets lucky in life with good parents, so if you happen to have them you should see them.

You’re going to crash out the hardest when they’re gone and be filled with regret for all of the times you didn’t reach out to learn about how they were doing or learn about the kind of person they were in their prime. I genuinely don’t think I’ll even be half the parent my parents are.

8. Take people less seriously.

If someone is being rude or sus around you, just let them be. If you know you did nothing wrong, there is no need to prove anything to anyone. Sometimes, people are going through things and can’t help but use you as an outlet. If it’s generally harmless, just let it slide and don’t make their problem yours.

9. Avoid making other people’s drama your drama.

Sometimes, you just need to hit the “damn that’s so crazy” to someone who’s trying to get you involved in drama that isn’t yours. Unless it has anything to do with you, there is no reason to get involved in business that isn’t yours only to burden yourself later when you somehow get involved.

It’s better for people to get upset you at for not caring enough over getting too involved and blamed after.

10. You can judge a behavior without judging the person.

If we lived in a world where judging behavior was too controversial, there would be no moral compass. Intention matters a lot here - if you’re being analytical of a behavior that does not ethically/morally align with you, it’s important to call it out.

If the verbiage and intention points more towards the specific person however, you can be at fault from a Christian perspective; Matthew 7:1-2 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you”.

This is such an underlooked verse that so many Christians are chopped at and definitely something to always get better at.